Feelings and thoughts are creations of our minds. Our feelings, our thoughts - and nobody else's. Nobody else is responsible for those feelings and thoughts;just us. I was recently reminded of this when a friend of mine broke a few boundaries or so I thought. The truth of the matter is that my perception of the broken boundary may not be hers at all. Yes, I am still hurt and confused about some of her actions but until I speak with her then I don't really know what's on her mind. To get to the heart of the matter then I need to be vulnerable and willing to share with her my perceptions, feelings and fears. This requires me to put on my big girl panties and step up to the plate. I realized this when I was in my kickboxing class this morning.
The wonderful thing about changing your lifestyle from sedentary to one filled with physical activity is that your body is not the only thing that changes. Physical activity increases your brain's serotonin, and dopamine neurotransmitters. As well, those lovely endorphins get released. All these chemical, hormonal and neurological changes really does have a positive effect on the body and the mind. So, when I first started working out this morning I was still feeling in a low mood. Mid-way through the class my energy was increasing and by the end of class I was fully energized. However, I was still feeling confused and upset when I left class. It actually wasn't until about 30 minutes after the class that I was able to get in touch with my true feelings about my friend. It felt as though I found my heart. I realized that I was most likely being too hard on my friend. After all, she deserves the chance to speak for herself about the matter without me putting words into her mouth. We have arranged to talk later today. I look forward to opening up a new and more meaningful door to our friendship.
Can you believe it? Tomorrow marks the first 2 weeks of physical training in preparation for the breast cancer fundraiser in April 2013. I am feeling good about that.
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