Their relationship had been intense for years. It was clear to anybody who saw them together that they were in love. They made each other laugh and sometimes cry. But she grew tired of him because there was nothing new and exciting in their relationship. It had become too comfortable. She knew she still loved him but it had become routine. He knew that she had become bored. But instead of bugging her about it and forcing the issue, he simply told her that he was willing to give her some space so that she could figure out what she wanted. This intrigued her because her previous experiences in relationships had at times made her feel caged. Now she was free to consider her needs and wants. She decided that he was demonstrating true love in that he did not want to hold her where she did not want to be held. She knew she would go away for awhile but she would return to him because of his generosity.
Sometimes relationships are like this. Sometimes we just need to know that we will not be held captive by the people we hold near and dear. It is at times of uncertainty that we know who truly cares about us. When somebody we know is willing to place your happiness above their own selfish desires then we know that this is a person that we want in our lives for a long time. It's so rare and refreshing not to have to fight for freedom in a relationship. The question I pose today is are we trying to control the people in our lives? If so, then we need to consider what is missing in our lives that we find it necessary to control the people we love. A long, introspective journey can shed light on this for us. It occurs to me that it takes a lot more energy to try to control other people. It takes less energy to figure out what our needs are and control ourselves.
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