something from him."
-Galileo
Sometimes I feel that being my genuine self isn't good enough for some people. That's just too bad for them because I'm going to tell you exactly what I think about people who think they're too good for other people. I find it revolting when people imply that other people are not smart enough to be their friends. Perhaps it's not the other people who have the learning deficit. The real problem is the fact that you're only viewing the other person as an object to fill your every whim and fantasy instead of seeing them as a person with feelings, and thoughts.
Working with homeless people was a real eye-opener for me. I learned from my clients every single day. Most homeless people are down-to-earth, and they will call you on a bullshit answer that you give to them. One of the most important things that I learned about being a support worker is how to be genuine. The being "genuine" principle was repeatedly taught through my counselling classes but it really didn't get absorbed until I started working in social services. Then it all hit home because I could not use formulaic answers with the clients without them tilting their heads at me and saying, "Now I want a real answer". Thankfully, I was able to give them the real answer they were looking for from me. The real answer was always based in honesty and genuineness.
So the next time that somebody says to you that "I only friend people who are smart" or "I only friend people who are confident" or whatever they think that you are lacking as a person. Just remember that you are good enough. It's the other person's lack of self-esteem that is narrowing their choices. It has nothing to do with you.
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